Make a new ... COOL

MAKE A NEW “COOL”

COOL… This word allows you to do all the things which you don’t want to do or go for it. Here is an incident that promotes or says…I do because every cool kid does.

I asked a guy, why do you smoke or drink? He replied, because every cool kid does. Is this “cool” word encourages you to do something which is not good for you or for yourself or trying to be a “cool happening guy” leads to do unnecessary stuff to girls.

“So perhaps men are the worst thing that ever happens to women, but men are not born that way. They learn it. Even well-intentioned, responsible young men are capable of making terrible decisions if they are not taught, prepared, and encouraged to do otherwise.”

Still women don’t feel safe when men are around them. But what make them conscious? Here are some quotes by women saying what made them feel fear. When asked, Girls replied that “The most prominent one is when some male member of the society keeps the prying eyes on them which prevent them from having fun. Speaking up about sexual harassment is another thing which women find it difficult to do.”

Every girl want to, and it’s their right to go for late night parties, take up more public spaces, to walk alone at India Gate and have an ice cream, not be judged by whatever clothes they are wearing, taking the last train for home without thinking of any companion, go to police station to report for crime without the fear of getting harassed by the police, stand freely in public space without covering their body with their bag or hair, taking general compartment and not specially women compartment, to wear red lipstick and to bring sanitary napkins without covering it with black plastic bag, to pass smile back at someone who smiles and greets her.

But all this starts with “me” and not amorphous “them”.

This reality of daily life limits women's freedom to get an education, to work, to participate in politics or to simply enjoy their own neighborhood. And, if you are a woman, expect to be subject to unwelcomed lower back press and rubs from the male passenger standing behind you in that crowded bus or train. If you are in the aisle seat, expect an exposure to the unwanted attentions of men who want to stand perpendicular to you and uncomfortably close.

To all the girls…

Raising one’s voice makes one vulnerable to the risk of retaliation. Take that risk. Speak up.  Stop believing that such harassment is an inevitable or expected part of your life. Encourage and support other women to speak up.  Even if a women walks naked on the street, a man has no right to touch her. Let’s teach our sons to respect women from an early age and as part of their education.  

To Everyone…

At the end of the day, we wanted our tiny, fragile, helpless baby boys to grow up to be kind. Strong, resilient, athletic, funny … but above all else, kind.

We have created this.  We have allowed this.  We choose not to demand more from our young men, because we see how big they grow in the spotlight.  We gave them adult power, without instilling in them an adult sense of responsibility and ethics.The result? Many boys grow up feeling ashamed of their emotions and become men who can’t communicate well—bottling up or lashing out—which makes it hard for them to relate to others.

When boys are able to understand how someone else feels, it makes them better friends now and better husbands and dads in the future.

Behavior is contagious!!!

“Your Manhood Is Not A License; Her Curves Are Not An Excuse.”